1. not involving questions of right or wrong; without moral quality; neither moral nor immoral.
For the purposes of this entry I'm using amoral with this usage. Not the one that indicates some nefarious things.
The issue of the "Good" Fatty vs the "Bad" Fatty has reared up in the Fatosphere yet again. I've been around for it many times and my opinion hasn't changed.
I do not believe that it behooves fat people (or people in general for that matter) to buy into the idea that there are somehow more virtuous among us fatties.
Now the stereotypical "Good" fatty is about as follows:
- Good Fatty exercises regularly or a lot.
- Good Fatty eats a carefully created nutritionally optimal diet.
- Good Fatty wears stylish and often higher priced clothing.
- Good Fatty doesn't have an eating disorder.
- Good Fatty toes the party line.
- Good Fatty never discusses or admits to any desire to lose weight or otherwise alter the shape or size of their body.
I could go on but you get my point. I don't say these things out of meanness however these are some of the things I've seen "bad" fatties question about themselves and thus feel like they are being edged out or are not welcome in many FA spaces.
I do not buy into the idea that there is a moral hierarchy to the size and shape of bodies. The fat person who does the above things is no more "good" in this context than the fat person who yes has an eating disorder or who is just fat because they (insert reason here) or that fat person who is not comfortable in their skin and does have a desire to lose weight.
I don't buy it, endorse it or take part in it.
I would prefer that rather than pointing fingers and telling people why they shouldn't say this that or the other thing, that we listen.
For me a big part of activism is hearing dissenting view points. If someone comes here and says, I think it's fucking awesome that you are a happy fatty but I'm not and I don't know if I want to lose weight or try to love myself as is, that is fine with me. A lot of people are not going to suddenly come to the conclusion that
It's fine with me because I've been there and even if I hadn't, I am more than happy to help you work it out by just being here talking.
To take this out of being strictly FA related.
I don't believe that good health is a moral issue as I've said before.
I don't believe that if you eat the textbook perfect diet, and exercise for hours on end that you are any better than the person who eats Mickey D's daily and wouldn't walk to the escalator. And the fact is, there are fat and thin people at both ends of that spectrum.
It is what it is.
To come back to FA in particular I think it's damaging to the cause to seemingly embrace this dichotomy. If we can't treat each other like our personal choices are awesome regardless of what they are, how can we expect the word at large to do that?
I would like to see less disclaiming that X persons choices are not at all the norm, oh no we're not all like that type thing.
I personally would like to see that someone like Heidi doesn't have to say things like this:
I am a really BAD fat and there don’t seem to be very many of us, so it’s a little lonely, even in the Fatosphere!
Honestly if people have to keep saying things like this, I don't want to play anymore. I don't want to play if we keep finding it necessary to use these kinds of labels to get ourselves (or those of us who are "good" fatties) accepted.
For the record, everybody is welcome here. Dieting? Unsure? Skinny? Super healthy? Really not so healthy? Fat? Kinda fat? Sorta fat? Super fat? Exerciser? Expert in reclining? Whatever.
You can play too.
This here is not a Good Fatty place.
I am not a Good Fatty.
I am not a Bad Fatty.
My fat is amoral.
I am just, fat.
I think that's all. I'm having a long day and everything is getting on my nerves.
I promised outfits didn't I?
I posted them in my lj here they are if you wanna have a looksy. Feel free to comment there or friend me if you want to. Also remember if you're going to steal my pictures to snark on, don't hotlink.
With that my darlings I'm done. My tummy is telling me to drink some Wu Yi Oolong with my crackers and study my notes for Nanowrimo. HOly shit y'all I'm doing fucking NOTES for once. This might turn out to be yanno a real novel.
Okay my homies and haters. Tomorrow I have a post about haters in mind that I hope will make you giggle and at least one special reader feel better.
Your mission for tonight is to at some point catch your own reflection give yourself the nod and say fuck yeah. I think we all need it today.