I had a rant going but changed my mind.
I'm not in the fucking mood today.
Today I am in the mood to talk about the things that contribute to my self esteem.
So back in the day when I was a youngster and very very confused about my self image and who I really wanted to show the world I stumbled on what would become the foundation of my self esteem.
The first and most important thing was that I had to learn that I in all of my glorious me-ness would never ever be like someone else in all their glorious otherness.
Seems quite simple but it's damn hard.
That means I had to stop comparing myself to my thin friends. not compare myself to diet ads, the ladies at the gym i went to. Random ladies on the street whom I thought to be better than me.
I (no really I did this) stood naked in front of a mirror and stared. I looked at myself from every angle I could.
It took me a long damn time to let that want to compare myself even just in my head.
Even now I struggle with the impulse and goddamn it I am not having it.
Now that led me to the freedom to just be who I am.
Which includes some not awesome things like I do have a temper that can be a problem, I can be a huge asshole and sometimes I'm a total snob. On the plus side once I stopped fighting everything under the fucking sun and leanred to roll with myself those things became less of an issue for me because the things that often set me off, weren't happening.
see what I did there?
Once you stop comparing yourself you can indulge in the supremely delicious feeling of freedom. Feel free to wear something outlandish, do something silly in public, laugh too loud, dance in the aisle at the grocery store, wear a hat with a fucking bird on it.
Basically be the way it feels GOOD to be.
For me that means sometimes I wear funny clothes and really bright make up.
When I let go of the want to compare myself to someone and just BE- I have always come out happier and healthier.
My self esteem rests on these things is what it boils down to:
Not comparing myself to the rest of mankind.
Letting myself be who I am with impunity.
That's where it all starts and ends for me my darlings.
Now hopefully if I don't forget there will be an outfit pic tomorrow because I look freaking cute today.
And more advice while I'm working through the ones I didn't answer in December.
Now your turn, tell me what helps your self esteem?