All right my homies.
Today we're talking first time girl on girl sex, featuring one fat lady and one not so fat lady who want some advice about stuff.
Our lovely bi lady said this in a nutshell (identifying stuff was removed by me beacuse she's shy)
We shall call our homie Shylady.
Shylady let me know that she is dating her first girlfriend and that they are about ready to get it on and she's super nervous. She also wants to know a little more specifically if there's anything she should be thinking about because she is a fat lady and her girl is not and she needs some reassurance.
First thing HOT DAYUM stand right up Shylady and do a victory dance. Congratulations on having your first girlfriend that is fucking awesome.
Next thing take a big long deep breath, sit down and relax.
Let's get one thing out of the way.
If your new gf was not into you, and into your fat booty than you probably wouldn't have needed to ask this question.
So to answer your unasked question, you are a hot fat piece of ass baby. I'm certain if you ask your girlfriend will say the same thing.
Onto some logical things.
If you are planning your special night here are some things I would have on hand.
If you are going to have toys and whatnot have lube handy. If you want to be extra super awesome as a girlfriend, ask your lady what kind she prefers. Hell be even more awesome and if she has lube she likes invite her to bring it along.
If you plan on using toys get rubbers. Even if you've both been tested it's the polite and awesome thing to do. And it's another thing you two can talk about and maybe even do together.
See where I'm going here?
If you are planning your night of awesome girl on girl action, do it together.
Go shopping together.
Head to your local adult toystore and go crazy. Get lube, get rubbers, if you're feeling super spunky maybe you two can chip in on an awesome new toy to use together.
Now other things to do pre-doing it date. (And this part is also helpful for anyone who's dating or plans on doing the sex with someone who has biological lady parts)
Prior to your date either go get or give yourself a manicure. Make sure you don't have any hangnails, sharp edged nails etc. Until you know your partner really well err on the side of caution.
I say this because some ladies enjoy a little bite so to speak with nails in their pussy region some don't. If in doubt ask and show your girl your nails so she can judge.
Next thing to do, realize that things are not going to be soft focused Skinomax perfection.
You're going to bump noses when you try to kiss, someone might get their pubes pulled by accident, you might drop your toys on the floor, fall out of bed, fart etc. Stuff happens and it's okay.
Be open to laughing at yourself. Even first time sexy things do not have to be serious business. Sex is funny, it really is.
Humans make weird faces, weird noises, we say random things in the throes of orgasm and it's okay.
Don't let your nervousness eat up your excitement. I know that being with a girl for the first time can be super intimidating. Just remember, if she wasn't all about you she would not be getting into your bed.
As for techniques- do not do stuff you've seen in mainstream porn.
I will repeat that for the whole class.
Do not use mainstream porn as your go to area for what is hot.
Instead of doing that for you Shy I would say first think about how you like to be touched and touch your lady that way. And ask her.
Regardless of what culture may say you're supposed to do (oh it's natural between women blablabla) ask her.
The thing is that female sexual response is as varied as there are varying sorts of women types.
Some women like a lot of penetration and a little other stimulation, some women can climax from nipple stimulation alone, some women might crawl all over you after you nibble a certain spot on their neck.
Being that you two have never had sex, don't put pressure on yourself to somehow magically know what she wants and how to satisfy her.
If you want to prolong the foreplay try talking about your sexual wants and needs before you plan on having sex.
It doesn't have to be phone sex level sexy but even the conversation can be a good tingle inducing warm up.
Remember you two my darlings are in charge. You got the wheel and I suggest driving it however you wanna.
Now I open the floor to all my lady lovin (or been lady loved) readers.
Share in the squee?
Tell a funny story?
If you guys are super nice I will tell you a funny story that involves me trying to be all Vagina Monologue's awesome, a fall and a sprain.
Trufax my darlings.
The big move/relaunch is coming along.
I have got BIG BIG plans and I'm having to slow myself down so I don't get overwhelmed and whatnot.
With that I leave you with this.
Remember my homies, I think that you are Mother Fucking Christmas. And I love you.
Go forth and frolic.