No more seriousness for a hot minute.
How about some beauty talk, pictures and mini reviews.
First of all let's talk about how fabulous my hair is right now. I've mentioned it but I went natural a few years ago and prior to my birthday decided to go red.
This is my hair styled with water and my fingers a couple of weeks ago when Uniballer and I were running errands and whatnot.
This is not quite the red I am going for but close.
My current beauty aesthetic make up wise is a lot of dark dark lips. Purple, burgundies all close to black. Either major cat eye liner with or without a single shadow color.
With the weather somewhat warming up I'm wearing more skirts (YAY) cardigans and my mary janes.
Also please note my skin. While I have not achieved crazy perfect skin, my skin is pretty fucking awesome for me right now and I am very excited about it.
Shortly before my birthday I started a new skincare routine because my old one was just not keeping my skin clear or irritation free. SO it's time to share.
Now when I talk about skin care products I'm using/have used I almost always wait for about 2-4 months before reviewing them. The thing is you have go give a product a lot of time to work. For me my main issues were break outs, super oily, and some roughness.
First let's talk my facial cleanser. I started to notice that the DermaE problem skin cleanser I was using lost it's oomph for me. Also I noticed when I switched to a mousse formula foundation it was not really getting my make up off in a satisfactory manner.
So, on the recommendation of a bunch of people I picked up some Black Magic by One Hand Washes the Other. Oh. Em. Gee. This cleanser is what I wanted Lush Coalface to be. For me I think it's the combo of the essential oils and other super fancy ingredients that works with my skin.
Now I also picked up this chunky beauty from Sephora as say training wheels (I really want a Clairsonic) it is the Ultimate Dual Exfoliating Face Brush. The head is nice and sizeable, the handle is chubby with a nice curve so it won't hurt tour hand. The pink side is nubby and nice.
Now the combination of the Black Magic+the face brush did a whole lot to get my skin cleared up. My skin is softer, less broken out.
My skin needs a lot of exfolation, I found that using a scrub helps keep my dark spots to a minimum. I've tried a lot of scrubs but my current favorite is this one from Sally. Beyond Belief ABH Pore Refining Exfoliating Scrub. I use this about two-three times a week. The scrub feels nice on the skin, the base is creamy without being oily or greasy. It has a nice licorice kind of smell and it's really gentle. I know I can get carried away and have caused myself irritation with scrubs but that hasn't happened with this one.
Lastly the most pricy indulgent thing I've been using is the No Zit Sherlock moisturizer. Now here is something I"ve learned over the years dealing with my oily skin. When the skin is super duper oily it throw ALL the anti acne ingredients at it.
This my friends can sometimes be the worst thing ever.
The secret for me is to use one product that is dedicated to anti acne. For me the magic is that No Zit Sherlock moisturizer and it's salicylic acid.
This combo has kept my skin pretty clear for three months now.
My skin is smoother and my pores are indeed less inflamed looking. My oilies are under control and my face is super soft. I still use full coverage foundation but I find it lasts longer and I use less.
Now some other make up super deals!
For lovers of dark dark lips. Seriously check out the Wet N Wild display at your local drug store. They have had some amazing colors and they are so cheap you can play.
Remember to watch for two for one sales, and you know what tell friends that if they have a lip color that doesn't work for them to pass it along.
Beauty and self care does not have to be expensive.
Let's talk about beauty that other people aren't into.
Frankly y'all a lot of Seatown is not into my look.
Days when I'm wearing almost black lips or purple lips I get a lot of side eye. The day I took the above photo a lady told me that my lip color wasn't work appropriate.
I don't give a fuck.
I don't give a fuck if anyone thinks deep purple lips are weird, too Goth or whatever.
This is the look I am into right now.
I gives zero fucks because this is what makes me feel pretty.
I haven't been feeling well lately, insomnia and right now I have a cold. And when I get that long long cat eye liner on and paint my lips and yes give some major bitch face, I feel pretty fucking good.
Self care like a mother fucker.
Now it doesn't have to involve everything I do. I do all these skin things, make up things and whatnot because I do actually find them soothing and they make me feel good.
You do what makes you feel good.
Maybe you keep it as simple as a nice body lotion. Or maybe you get mega fancy and arch your brows until they cry.
Do these things not because everyone wants you to be pretty. Fuck those people.
Do it because it makes you feel good. Do it to remind yourself how valuable and precious you are.
You are so important and so precious that you are worth the two minutes to do something nice for yourself. Or the 45 minute bath. Or the weirdly colored lipstick or the cat eye liner. You are worth the funky colored hair.
You are worth enough that you can do what you want to do to feel good.
Also let's be real.
Self care is part of your overall health. Some days the only thing between us and depression or suicidal feelings or days when the thought of getting out of bed is more than we can bear, is the often taken for granted by others acts of self care.
Taking the time to put on some lip balm if your lips are dry counts. Putting some lotion on your hands counts. Sitting by yourself and putting on a full face of make up counts.
Putting pants on and going outside to get the mail, or milk or whatever counts.
Never underestimate the awesomeness of those small gestures.
Sometimes it's the little things, the seemingly superficial things that get us through and out of the bad times.
That said, my homework for you my homies after all the heavy posts of late is to do something purely for your own amusement and self love.
Paint your nails, trim your nails, put lotion on your feet, wear your favorite lipstick that you never feel "brave" enough to wear outside the house. Do your hair. Wear something fancy even if you can't go outside.
Do something to show yourself how valuable you are. Remind yourself that you are here in the world.
I love you my homies and haters. Let us hope I can sleep off this fucking cold.