I am warning you.
If you are a Lady Gaga Fan, have easily hurt feelings or are a super fan of Bitch, Jezebel or Feministing you may want to skip me today.
So first let me say if LG has been suffering from eating disorders that's awful but that's not what I'm talking about here today.
I am so beyond tired of thin white women trying to take over Body Acceptance and turn it into a Thin Pretty White Lady thing.
First of all we all are aware that the Thin White Woman is the beauty ideal. Any fashion aside, LG does in fact fit that ideal.
Don't argue with me about it because you know it's true. Whether or not you like her aesthetic or her music if you put her in some jeans and a tshirt she fits in just fine.
Second of all, let me say directly.
Fuck you Bitch Media.
Fuck you Jezebel.
Fuck everyone who is suddenly on the accept yourself boat.
Why do I say that?
The message when people like LG and the ensuing media coverage come out as the faces of bodily acceptance is that Thin and White and Pretty is all that is good and right in the world. Look if you want to at Lady Gaga in her bra and panties. She is ever so "fat", it must be terrible existing in a body that you know is held up as a standard of what a "good" body is.
My problem is that not one of these people is actually fat and when actual fat people say the same fucking things we are excoriated, bullied, hated and told to die.
Think I'm kidding?
Go read the comments on the interview I did at the Root. That isn't even to mention having people who didn't comment there come here and tell me to enjoy my diabetes and early death.
Thin white lady posts pictures of herself in apparent misery because of some weight gain and people lose their minds trying to cry tears for her struggle.
Joyous fat people post pictures of themselves doing ANYTHING and not only giving the same messages but LIVING them and what do we get?
Look at what some people have to say in the FatKini thing on XOjane.
If those of us who are fat even dare to post pictures of ourselves shit happens.
I have nothing to say to people who after those of us actually living in bodies that are actively threatened on the daily, bodies that aren't even safe from the so called health industry. Bodies that are abused and hated and held up as the vision of everything wrong in the universe- all of us have been saying these things for fucking years.
The FIRST time I ever talked or wrote about was 15 years ago. I have been (as well as many other fat people) have been saying the SAME goddamn thing for decades now and yet, skinny white starlets have some bad body image and suddenly it's necessary to love your bodies right?
No fuck you.
I feel the same way when people suddenly seem to understand in FA circles that there is a lot of serious racism happening, that is constantly happening and after POC like me have blogged and talked and emailed and begged and PLEADED, suddenly another White person says Hey this is racist and suddenly it all makes sense.
Fuck that too.
This is why I have honestly gotten kind of tired of fat blogging.
I recognize that I am not a nice White lady, I know that to the majority of White people in FA my voice ain't shit.
Please don't take that as a statement that I"m not blogging or that I want pity it is a statement of fact.
When added in with the LG flavor of body acceptance (Thin and White is Right) all I can say is fuck you.
I do sincerely hope that if Lady Gaga has eating disorders that she is able to get treatment for them because no one should have to live with those if they don't want to.
That said, I need for her and every other Thin White Lady having a bad body image day to shut the actual fuck up because they are not saying anything new nor are they the ones in real danger.
I can't with that bullshit today.