Tuesday, February 19, 2013

No I'm not impressed.

There have been articles and webtoons sent to me as I dunno, "support:" of fat acceptance.

Here's the thing.

I don't give a shit.


If you have been reading me, you know I put work into what I do. It takes time, effort, and a lot of energy to do what I do.

Unlike some FA bloggers I have not gone on to fame and fortune. I haven't gotten a book deal (nor do I particularly want one right now), I am not the sort of blogger who is palatable to the masses, my brand of FA isn't the most forgiving of fuck ups etc.

I am comfortable with this.

What I'm not comfortable is the gentrification of fat issues by non fat people.

I understand that if a thin/ner person says, OH HAY being the way you want to be in your body is okay, is more palatable to the masses but, that doesn't mean that I think it's okay.

I don't think it's time to start giving away cookies and cheers to people who appropriate the words, feelings and experiences of people who are actually fat and not just giving lip service to these ideas.

I loathe the fact that everyone wants to say YAY NO BODY SHAMING to thin women who want to be the face of body acceptance.

I hate it when I watch people (who even know me) talk about how there are no POC FA voices.

It's fucking bullshit.

It's awful.

Here's the thing. Aside from me there are a lot of other fat bloggers who are talking about health, their lives, their clothes etc. The important thing to understand here is that we're not talking from a theoretical position. We're not talking from the high privileged position of the already accepted Thin Pretty White Lady Ideal.

The important thing is that our voices are difficult.

Yes, it's harder to accept that losing weight might not solve all your problems when it's coming from the mouth of a fat person because as the internet has pointed out, fat people never know what they are talking about.

What makes me the angriest is that in any other case, people would be up in arms.

It's the truth.

So rather than sending me a link written by a thin person about fatness, how about saying. Yeah well we've been saying this all along.

Want to be an ally? Want to actually do something other than pat yourself on the back because of how progressive you are, what with your accepting of us fatties?

How about standing up for our work?

Tell people not to ride on our backs and steal the essence of our work.

When my blogging falls off or slows down this is usually why to tell y'all the truth.

I get very tired of seeing things I've been literally talking about for at least five years, get picked up by more acceptable faces and oh how the congratulations fly.

It is really too disheartening for me to try and keep up with ALL the places where I see the ideas I've already put forth being put into practice for fun and profit by (usually) Nice white People.

It's too exhausting to keep up with the not fat people who like to talk about fatness in what they think is a positive way.

So, let's agree that if you see articles or videos or cartoons about fatness that are not written by fat people and give no fucking credit to those of us who not only talk about these things but we live them, do me a favor and don't show them to me.

They just hurt and demoralize me.

Now, I'm trying to get out of a depressing bog when it comes to things I want to blog about. I'll be back later this week with some less heavy subject matter. My heart needs it.

Homo Out.



Morella La Muerte said...

It's not the exact same thing, but I feel like this is similar to the reason why I stopped blogging about mental health issues. I am not a "good crazy." I'm not one of those all sunshine and roses mentally ill people who sees the happy unicorns farting rainbows in spite of the fact that I'm bipolar/borderline/OCD. I'm actually a rather pissed off person (although the really raw anger has toned down) and I struggle with suicide ideation at times. I got sick of it when even fellow mentally ill people were telling me to look on the "bright side." At the moment I was writing, I didn't feel like looking at the god damn bright side, the truth is, I felt like setting off a bunch of nukes.
I never got into fat acceptance blogging because I knew my approach would probably not be accepted because of my tendency to express my angry feelings a little too honestly. I'm glad you do and I hope you'll continue to.

wriggles said...

I hear ya. I hope you come back fully refreshed.

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