Okay anonymous person I'm going in on you today so put your hard hat on.
Did that person ask for your help? Did they ask you to help them move? Pay for a gym membership? Tell them your Thin and Perfectly fit all the time with the most miraculous diet lifestyle secrets?
I'm guessing no.
In your note you mention that you've read my blog for "a long time" and "are a big fan" if you were you would have seen me talk about this sort of thing time and again.
If the person you're talking about is just fat, what are you helping them with? Are you helping them eat well? Are you telling their doctors to treat them fairly? Are you walking around defending them from street harassment? Are you telling retailers you shop at where your fine tiny ass is covered well, to provide clothing for your fat friend?
Or do you just not want them to be fat anymore?
I am not posting the note you sent me here because I feel like it is insulting, condescending and would probably trigger the shit out of people.
Let me tell you why anonymous.
Your language was dripping with the same kind of pseudo-encouragement fat people get everywhere. You come off like you think you are so nice talking about how pretty your friend is while you are saying they cannot really be happy or pretty because they are as you put it "still fat".
The implication is the same as when people say to fat people:
You'd be so pretty if you lost weight.
You should try black, it's slimming.
WOW you are so brave for wearing that.
Look, you are being an asshole.
You though you profess how much you care about your fat friend, you didn't once mention that you are concerned for their entire health. You made the assumption that your friend is depressed because they are fat, that they are unwell because they are fat. You gave not one impression or seeming though to the fact that they might have other health problems. You did not mention that maybe you are contributing to their malaise with your "encouragement".
So how about fuck you and your concern.
What you are doing is deciding that the "health" of this person is only wrapped up in the size of their ass and if their ass was smaller BOOM they would magically be healthy.
What you are doing is deciding that since your friend is visually unappealing to you, the only answer is that they change their body.
You have shunted the responsibility to make you comfortable onto that person's body.
Rather than being honest and forthright as you claim you are, you are doing the same sneaky abusive bullshit the rest of society does. Instead of outright letting your fat hate flag fly.
You do not "trick" a grown ass person into exercising by luring them outside to go for some bullshit walk with you.
If you wanted to really be helpful to your "friend" here is what you'd do instead.
You'd say, hey friend it is really beautiful out today would you like to go for a walk with me?
If you cared about their health you would never try to fool them into your idea of healthful eatng.
You would not give them clothing that is too small as a "motivation" to lose weight.
You are just like everyone else.
Your concern is a lie.
If you want to really help your fat friend send them links to fat acceptance blogs. Don't try to guilt, "motivate' or otherwise fuck with them about exercise or food ever.
If you want nothing more in the world than for your fried to be healthy and happy, scheming to treat them in an abusive manner would not occur to you.
You would advocate for fat people to get good treatment by medical professionals.
You would speak up when people shame fat people.
You would not behave as you are.
So stop it immediately or come out and tell your friend that you really just want them to have a smaller ass. And after that, you would in fact leave them alone.
Furthermore, I'm going to guess your friend isn't as vocal as I am so let me speak for them for a moment.
Fuck you, fuck your faux concern and how about you shove your opinions about their ass right up your own.
Also a note for future anonymous people.
I am not obligated to be nice to you. I will read you to filth if you contact me with bullshit like this again.
So for the rest of my homies.
My contact things are really fucking full and there was a message about books I cannot find now. You know who you are could you send me your email address again please?
Okay my darlings I am off back to work on the self care V2.0 book.
I am on chapter 8 and on schedule to release it at the end of the month or the start of next month.