Pardon my unplanned hiatus my friends.
Remember I've been talking about relaunching and wordpress and shit? So that is about to happen.
The thing is that between the misuses of my work and general malaise I feel like I want a new start. I have been blogging on various platforms for a really long time now and as much as I have enjoyed doing serious business FA here, I don't really want to do it anymore.
My problem is that I've said a lot of things and I am a little tired of doing a lot of work for free. I just don't really have the spoons nor the time to really do serious FA anymore.
That being what it is, I also didn't want to make the change in this space and using blogger.
So here is what is gonna happen.
I am going to leave this here as an archive of sorts.
Aside from feeling too burnt crispy I also really want to give more which has been hard here. So the new plan is this.
I will give y'all the new link probably tomorrow or Thursday.
I will post a thing with the new link.
I hope y'all will come along for more things, I will still talk about fatness and race and shit but also I want to integrate more of my interests and stuff I like to talk about. Natural hair, fashion, maybe some more make up and whatnot.
Wig reviews, experiments. Feelings. Body Image.
Self care- a LOLtastic aside. Y'all hate reading me, you don't have to be sending me actual traffic since you hate every word that comes out of my dam mouth. Also just a note. Regardless of how much you hate my work, linking to me is giving me traffic which makes me a bit of money. Also circle jerking for years (yes years ago a bunch of y'all came running about something or other the evil fat ass said)
Continually following the series of posts at XOjane you hate so much, gets me pageviews and that tells the publisher people are enjoying and reading.
So seriously. I don't know if your aim is to hurt my actual feelings (linking to this post to talk shit about the advice I gave to someone who asked and needed it obviously is just a shitty thing to do) or to try to passive aggressively (since none of y'all will speak to me like actual grown ups about both the context and content of what I'm writing) shut me down, well you're not really doing it that well.
I am aware of what you're saying.
To be honest I cared for a few seconds when (and let me remind you as I've said many times I do know how to read and use web analytics) I found the incoming traffic.
I was a little hurt.
And then I remembered something a good friend of mine said the first time I was talked about on the internet.
In terms of shit that has happened from this sort of thing, meh.
I'm not super bothered you hate my work. A lot of people hate my work. I have been generally involved in the writing and publishing industry outside of the internets and on the internets, for more than 20 years.
The length of time aside I am a Black Queer person with opinions that White people have threatened to kill me for both online and off.
So as a note to my regular homies and those who are afraid when this sort of thing happens.
It's not about you or me really.
The whole look let's hate read and talk a lot of shit about this person thing is nothing new. Shitty people have done it since the dawn of time.
To the reader who brought it to my attention you are a sweetheart and don't worry I'm not freaked out.
Hate read me if you like. Talk about how stupid and awful my writing is that's fine.
Keep on clicking (I do like those extra pennies for traffic), keep on assuming shit when you could just ask and get an actual answer, or rub your presumptions all in your groin or whatever.
Fact is, I will probably keep writing shit you hate.
Whether you hate me because OH SHIT FAT, OH NO NEGRO WITH OPINIONS, or because I am so "XOJane" which if you actually knew me would be hilarious given my history of having major issues with some of their editorial ethics and decisions.
And if you really want to dox me, do remember to use that google machine where you can find my name and contact information.
Okay for the rest of my regular homies.
I heard from our homie from this entry. They have been walking and stretching and learning how to change how they view movement and their body. That person has even gone out dancing with their friends!
The reason I talked about the hate readers so much is so that I can say this.
Regardless of what you have said or will say about me, I feel pretty damn good that I helped a real live human being have a better quality of life.
That is so much more important to me than people who hate me.
Honestly, one of the driving forces behind my non fiction as a whole, is for that one person who says, thank you for helping me.
To put it more seriously (I am talking about this with permission) someone who bought V2.0 read it and did not kill themselves.
I don't want to put all their business out there but in the section where I repeatedly talk about surviving and getting help when you need it, they took that to heart and did not kill themselves.
I have been in texting contact with this person since they got out of the hospital and been in contact with the person they called for help and y'all-
You know that I am a fairly sensitive person. Sometimes I take it to heart as real critique of my work when I am trolled, talked about, gas lighted etc.
And then something that means so much to me like helping someone survive just makes it all okay.
The racialized threats, the hate mail, the death threats, the rape threats, the threats to be doxed (to be clear I'm not talking about the people above specifically just what has happened to me on the internet for years) and the time it takes to clear my various inboxes (including comments on a fucking cat video) of hateful messages are all kind of nothing in the face of really doing what I feel I was put on the planet to do.
I do truly feel that part of why I exist, is to be of service to some people. I am lucky to be reminded very often that there are people out there who need my voice. That even though I'm not in good enough health or have enough time to do street level volunteering like I did when I was a kid, that I can still make a little difference in the universe.
That is everything to me.
I've gone way long. I am deep in my feelings today because even those folks who hate me I love you anyway and hope y'all have good lives even if that means you wanna talk shit only semi behind my back.
I love my regular homies who have hung in there for years.
I love my new readers who only know me from Xojane or Luna Luna.
I am pretty full of love.
Even when I'm rolling my eyes.
Okay fuck sake I need to calm down.
I am going to go work on relaunch stuff, I have many plans and goals.
So please keep an eye out here for the new bookmark and the actual relaunch that I am hoping to make happen by Sunday.